It is an esoteric fact that waste of
sexual energy burns certain parts of the mental mechanism. No one else
can determine for you how often it is healthy for you to have sex; only
the physical and psychological results reveal this to you.
Those engaged in higher creative work
and abstract thinking must conserve sexual energy. They will then
notice how creativity, understanding and higher inspiration are
developing successfully. If sexual energy is saved or economically
used, it helps to develop the personality.
Sexual energy is spread throughout the
aura. It creates the magnetic mechanism which secures higher
impressions. If this substance is weak, disturbed, or even absent,
impressions are not correctly secured, and with incorrect reception,
confused interpretation results.
I remember a person who came to my
Teacher in the monastery and asked for help. “My mind is not together,”
he said. “I am becoming lazy, diffused, forgetful and irritable. I
have many problems.” The Teacher looked into his eyes and asked, “How
many women do you love?” “Three,” he answered. “You need to stay in the
monastery for six months to restore your brain,” the Teacher said.
The man stayed in the monastery after
making arrangements to take care of his family. He attended classes and
participated in sacred dances, sports and labour. The Teacher did not
let him have a moment’s rest from 5:00 am until 10:00 pm. The results were amazing. He became a new man.
I remember the Teacher saying to him,
“Excessive sex disturbs the rhythm and harmony of your mental atoms and
you hallucinate instead of think. It even causes visual deceptions.
The section of your mind that records events mixes the events of the
past and present and you experience mental chaos. You develop hypocrisy
an eventually you hate yourself.”
Intercourse is a process of fusion with a
person of the opposite sex. This fusion is physical, emotional and
mental. When you fuse with someone else, you share each other’s karma.
One person’s karma becomes two people’s karma through sexual relations,
which can be good or bad. That is why you must have sexual relations
with only one partner so that you do not load yourself with the karma
and pollution of many others. Sexual relations multiply our karma and
sometimes make us indebted to the other person forever. Their karma ties
us to them until we pay it.
The Teaching says it is best to have
only one wife or husband. In this way a couple can gradually build real
fusion or unity on all levels. This is the goal of marriage.
The average person is not able to be
truly strict in his sexual behaviour. It is better for a person on the
spiritual path who is dedicated to a great service to have fewer
burdens and debts. We must not forget that advancement on the path and
expansion of our field of service is in direct proportion to the degree
of our karmic debt. Often people who are ready to enter higher levels
of consciousness are prevented from doing so by past karma and are
chained to a routine life.
Having multiple sexual partners
increases your ties. Often these ties prevent you from having freedom
to advance in service. Those who stay together for longer periods or
even for many lives, evoke deeper beauty from each other. Those who are
married and have affairs with others create serious complications in
their families, especially in the lives of their children.
Those who want to go forwards on the
path of spiritual evolution must be very discriminative in their sexual
life. Sex is a powerful and precious energy which must not be wasted.
Intercourse must be an effort to contact the highest within each other
and to provide vehicles for incoming souls or for precipitating higher
ideas and visions.
Masturbation is an abuse of sexual
energy. Masturbation is very unhealthy for men, women and children. It
creates a tremendous pressure in the grey matter of the brain; the
pineal and pituitary glands are affected, and mental concentration is
weakened.
If a person feels an urge to masturbate,
an excellent remedy is to wash the sexual organs or to douche with
acidophilus. Acidophilus stops sexual stimulation because it disinfects
germs and microbes that create artificial sexual stimulation. Even
children who want to masturbate should wash with acidophilus.
There is a great difference between
intercourse and masturbation. In intercourse the man’s aura and the
woman’s aura mix, and their etheric, emotional and mental counterparts
slowly adjust with each other, filling the reservoir with the creative
sexual energy used during intercourse. In masturbation, the reservoir
of energies which creates and replenishes the sexual energy is not
formed. In masturbation, one draws upon his reserves and wastes them.
So much pressure is put on the grey matter of the brain from the
depletion of energies brought about by masturbation that lack of
concentration, lack of daring and creativity, and even insanity can
result.
In healthy sexual intercourse, the man
absorbs the woman’s energies and the woman absorbs the man’s energies.
The energy which is absorbed replaces the secretions released during
intercourse. That energy creates etheric energy which recharges the
blood. In masturbation there is no exchange or absorption of energies;
there is only loss. Furthermore, during masturbation a person creates
sexual thoughtforms which are difficult to eliminate.
Another form of sexual abuse which is
very harmful is oral sex. Oral sex destroys the aura’s equilibrium and
harmonious vibration. If a woman gives fellatio to the man, it causes
her to absorb the man’s energy without returning any. There is no
etheric and astral exchange in this way.
In some medical books I have read that
semen is a tremendous nourishment for women in oral sex. Women may
benefit, but men eventually collapse. Men develop serious diseases when
they lose energy without replenishment. One doctor cited the case of a
man who became very nervous, lost weight, and eventually lost control
of his mind because of oral sex.
Oral sex can be very dangerous for the
woman, as her mouth absorbs any germs or disorders from the man’s
physical organs and sex center. Also, because the throat center has a
different, higher vibration than the sex center, it can become damaged
from this incorrect merging. Men also absorb germs and damage their
throat centers by engaging in oral sex.
Never let any man kiss your genitals or
your breasts. Gum disease or decaying teeth carry infection to your
organs or breasts. The breasts absorb germs and viruses from bleeding
gums which weaken the woman and make her susceptible to disease. For
similar reasons women should never let men touch them with unwashed
hands during sexual relations.
Oral sex is a sign of retrogression, of
going towards bestiality. It creates terrible interference between the
throat and sex centers when they are forced into intercourse. In oral
sex the throat center mixes with the etheric sex center and creates
tremendous complications. Putting one’s throat center in contact with
the sex center of another, lowers the frequency of the throat center
and creative energy is lost.
In animals the throat and sex centers
form a single unit, one not yet differentiated into two, as in the
human being. This means that oral sex does not hurt animals while it
does hurt human beings. The human throat center is the blooming of the
sublimated sex center; it is the higher counterpart of the sex center.
A woman who practices oral sex pollutes
her throat center with the low, coarse vibrations of the sex center,
creating imbalance in her system. If a woman is highly advanced
creatively, an artist or a singer, a year or two of oral sex may cause
serious problems in her sexual organs. Most women I know who have had
hysterectomies have practiced oral sex.
Oral sex alters the auras of both
partners. The man becomes more feminine and the woman becomes more
masculine. This happens because in oral sex the woman channels to the
man the female principle and the man channels to the woman the male
principle.
Certain ways of kissing are also very
damaging. When you kiss by sucking each other’s tongue and the insides
of the mouth, you infect yourself with microbes. All the germs and
weaknesses of the body are carried in saliva. Some eye diseases stem
from problems in the sexual organs. Through such kissing, blood
diseases are also transmitted. Sometimes tuberculosis microbes are
dormant in the organs and are transmitted to others and become active.
Men sometimes have intercourse but do
not ejaculate as a method of birth control, or because they think they
are saving their energies. This is a very harmful action. When a man’s
penis is stimulated, the body creates excess seminal fluid to be used
in the orgasm. When this fluid is not released, it accumulates and puts
pressure on the testes and other glands. This accumulated pressure
throws the whole body out of balance, causing the etheric counterpart
of the sexual organs to swell etherically.
I spoke with several men who had their
testes removed because of tumour or cancer, and all said they had
practiced withholding ejaculation for a long time.
Some people think that a way to increase
energy is to enjoy sex without orgasm. Such sex does not increase the
etheric energy; on the contrary, the pressure on the sexual organs
becomes so intense that after a few years those organs start to
degenerate. Those who have intercourse without orgasm dig their own
graves.
A certain group I knew experimented in
this kind of sex. At first they felt very good. I told them to wait for
two years before forming a conclusion. At the end of that period many
of them had developed tumours and other sexual problems. Any abuse of
Nature causes disease. We must learn not to exploit Nature.
Most weakness is not caused by lack of
energy, but from excessive energy or congestion. We think we can fool
Nature and draw pleasure from it without using energy, but we cannot
fool Nature. If a man does not want to ejaculate, he should not become
sexually stimulated.
Intercourse in the early morning is also
very damaging. Many heart problems stem from early-morning
intercourse. When you have sex in the morning your energy is exhausted,
but you must get up and go to work, handle problems and deal with
daily stress. Because you are exhausted you become irritated more
easily.
If you have a headache in the morning
after having intercourse the night before, it is a sign that something
is wrong. There can be many causes for it, so you must find the right
one. The headache could be caused by lack of energy. The sexual act is
related to the liver, the heart, the brain, the spinal fluid and every
chakra.
In the mental body there is also a sex
center which is related to everything that you are. This center can be
damaged in various ways and cause impotency or a feeling of sexual
rejection. For example, if during intercourse you are shocked by bad
news, an explosion or some kind of interference, this center closes up
and is often damaged. If your partner creates jealousy, irritation, or
disturbances in you by talking about other women or men while you are
having sex, the sex center in the mental body becomes damaged. If the
damage is serious enough, you first feel sexual repulsion; then you
develop impotency or frigidity.
Many people now claim that it is healthy
and natural for parents to have sex in front of their children. Such
behaviour is very destructive for the children’s future. When a child
watches his parents have intercourse, he does not become stimulated at
that time because his sex center is closed and there is no response
from it. But the image or thoughtform of sex is stored in his mind.
Later, when the child’s sex center starts to become active, that sexual
thoughtform will rush to the center, obsess it and urge him to have sex
because of the image of his parents’ sexual intercourse. This happens
anywhere between the ages of ten and fifteen and it is one of the
causes of premature sexual stimulation in children. When such children
become sexually mature, they feel so much pressure from the images
accumulated in them that they are not able to control their sexual
urges.
Rape is another form of sexual abuse. A
man who rapes a woman is drinking a cup of poison. When a man forces a
woman to have sex with him, her aura becomes poisonous for him. All the
irritation, imperil, negativity, and karmic poisons in the aura of the
woman enter the aura of the man. The rapist becomes even more sick
mentally; he starts to fail in his business and he becomes a greater
problem to society.
Sexual abuse has the following effects on the physical body:
1. Sexual abuse causes the body to lose its immune system, its defence mechanism against disease. As soon as you see that you are absorbing germs, refrain from sex so that you can refill your reservoir.
2. Sexual abuse weakens the nervous system and makes you shaky.
Test whether you are having too much sex by stretching out your
fingers and seeing if they tremble. Another test is to see whether you
can stand on one foot without leaning, wobbling or moving at all.
3. Sexual abuse makes people lazy and sleepy and leads to inertia.
When people complain that they cannot find a job, I ask them how often
they have sex. Once they abstain for three or four months, usually the
right job is waiting for them.
Whenever you want more sleep, it is usually because you lack energy.
Sleep is the body’s automatic response mechanism to save energy.
Tiredness is not always caused by waste of sexual energy, but wasting
sexual energy is characterized by tiredness. Laziness is another effect
of wasting sexual energy. When you conserve sexual energy, it is easy
to wake up early, get chores done quickly, and do all the things you
need to do. You have enthusiasm and interest, not only for your own
activities, but also for your spouse, family and friends.
Enthusiasm and interest are operated
solely on the fuel of sexual energy. If you do not have the fuel of
sexual energy, you are an interesting or an interested person.
4. With
sexual abuse the colour of the body becomes pale and the tissue around
the eyes becomes dark; the voice becomes hoarse, lower and unclear,
and it loses its energy. Singers immediately notice the effects of sexual abuse. I knew a great voice teacher in the Middle East
who had a special soprano student with an outstanding voice. One day
the student told the teacher she was going to be married. The teacher
told her, “I hope you will be moderate in sex because if you are not,
you may lose your voice.” The woman married a young man, did not follow
her teacher’s advice, and gradually lost the outstanding quality of her
voice.
Singing is related to the sex and throat centers. To
be a great singer does not mean that you can never have sex, however,
you cannot waste your energy and continue to be a great singer.
5. Sexual abuse leads to impotency at an early age.
I have counselled thousands of people and most of their problems stem
from impotency and frigidity. These are two of the major causes for
divorce. Usually when I inquire into the background of such people, I
find that they started having sex when very young.
Every real genius and server of humanity has control
over and sublimation of his sex drive. A well-known Russian ballet
dancer once told me that he had sex with his wife only once a month or
once every two months. “It’s because I can’t dance if I have it more
often,” he said. The energy and the elasticity for dancing come from
the accumulation of sexual energy.
6. Because of sexual abuse, weaknesses develop in our relationships with others. Those
who can live together the longest are those who economize their sexual
energy. The ties of relationships slowly weaken and dissolve when
sexual energy is wasted.
7. A
person who abuses sex may have weak or retarded offspring, or
offspring who have a strong inclination toward sex at an early age.
Whatever you are, you will produce the same kind.
Such energies are so embedded in your aura that you will pass these
same urges and drives on to your children. A normal child does not even
think about sex until age sixteen or seventeen.
8. Sexual abuse leads to sickness and problems in life.
9. If a person’s body is still growing when he starts to abuse his sexual energy, his body will not reach its full height. A
child who abuses sexual energy will often stop growing after age
sixteen. This is a very serious condition, when we consider that
normally a young woman can grow until age twenty-seven.
10. Sexual abuse weakens the eyesight.
11. Sexual abuse weakens the heart and may lead the person to heart disease.
12. Sexual abuse may lead to cancer. The cells of the body work overtime to replace the energy drained by sexual abuse.
13. Sexual abuse may lead to various others organic difficulties.
14. Those who abuse their sexual energy live twenty to thirty years less than they normally would have. I
know may men who died young, in their thirties and forties, as a
result of wasting sexual energy, particularly through masturbation.
15. Sexual abuse damages the pineal, pituitary and carotid glands.
The emotional effects of sexual abuse are:
1. nervousness
2. the urge to gossip
3. nosiness
4. irritability
5. destructiveness
6. indifference to responsibility and duties
7. desire to steal and an inclination toward crime
8. jealousy
9. selfishness
10. pessimism
11. a sense of isolation and wanting to be alone
12. hatred for the beauty in others
13. sneakiness
14. loss of magnetism of the aura
The mental effects of sexual abuse are:
1. loss of moral principles
2. no drive for achievement
3. lack of striving to know, to serve, to lead
4. mental diffusion
5. no higher goals
6. no contact with the Inner Guide
7. attempting to exploit people
8. misleading others
9. development of hatred and separatism
10. lying
11. vanity
12. showing off
13. various complicated mental problems and insanity coming to the surface
The spiritual effects of sexual abuse include the following:
1. The
person is prevented from contacting higher spiritual energies.
Celibacy is important before expansion of consciousness and
initiations.
2. The
knowledge petals lose energy and cannot unfold. As a result, wisdom is
lacking on the three levels of the personality and the person falls
into confusion. (The knowledge petals are found in each personality
vehicle as a reservoir of knowledge and wisdom). When these petals are
burned by sexual abuse, the person hears voices from the etheric and
astral planes and no longer has control over his own speech.
3. The person can become obsessed.
4. The throat center becomes damaged.
5. Creative energy decreases in the mental body and the person cannot formulate or evoke higher concepts.
6. Ugly imagination develops.
7. The
aura becomes polluted and contact with the forces of Nature is
hindered. The aura is the mechanism of impressions. Only a pure aura is
magnetic enough to allow the person to be approached by devas or
Masters.
8. Telepathic communication stops.
9. Karma drastically increases for the person.
10. Relationships become very complicated.
11. Their children’s future is ruined.
When a person wastes sexual energy, he
depletes love energy. This leads to depression, failure, destructive
activities, irresponsibility, degenerative diseases, and even suicide.
With a mind bereft of health, sanity and balance, the person introduces
anti-survival directions into the seven fields of human endeavour.
Politics becomes corrupted. Education is reduced to manipulation.
Communication becomes a science of cleavages. Art falls into
prostitution. Religion turns into fanaticism. Economics creates
deficits and depression.
-Torkom Saraydarian
Sex, Family and the Woman in Society
